Easy and Hard

Easy and Hard

This is my last message to you:
In sorrow seek happiness.

Fyodor Dostoevsky - The Brothers Karamazov

Post written by Katarina Miletic  Join my Inner Circle

Is it even possible to comprehend the number of the different interpretations and subtle variations, not to mention opinions, beliefs and convictions on these two subjects? And what is easy for one, may be hard for another – so how do we deal with that one?

If there ever was a subject that can closer illustrate that everything is a matter of our perception – than this! Meaning, we don’t even need to choose to label something as ‘hard’ if we so decide. Having to endure it under that description is monumentally harder than if we allow for some things to be outside of our control and tend to those that absolutely are. It’s amazing how the same situation that seemed unbearable a moment ago, can be truly appreciated as a blessing in disguise.

Now, I know that some situations we live through are widely seen as ‘hard’. They actually just ARE – same way as any situation and occurrence. If you base your in the moment feeling on something that is attached to any condition outside you – life is going to seem unfair, unnecessarily hard, uphill struggle most of your days. You may even start thinking that other people have it ‘easy’ compared to you and your misfortunes. You may list them in your mind, talk about them with your friends, and sew the chaos inside your soul upon everyone you encounter – but mostly hurting your own sensitive soul, often even without realisation that your thoughts and perceptions keep creating the reality you don’t want.

No, I am not saying that you should pretend that hard thing you are going through right now is actually easy. However, start examining past situations in your life, or someone close to you. Has that hard thing you endured brought out the best version of you, made you grow, mature and display an immense amount of mental or physical strength – something you were not even aware you had inside you. Weren’t you proud of yourself in those moments? Didn’t you handle that well? And just where did that come from?

Well, this new ‘hard’ you are living through is trying to bring the best in you, the new level you. I know it’s anything but easy, my friend – yet, if you view it with appreciation that it is indeed a blessing – you may allow yourself to grow still further as a human being.

And do you know when it gets easy? It’s easy when you are in concert with your soul. When your inner being is guiding you from within. Then you are strong and powerful in your moment, in your every moment – in your now. Easy means being at peace, trusting that you will know how, trusting that you will have the strength, that this new challenge, this ‘hard’ thing you are living through will not crush your spirit, but give you more clarity and leverage to go forward.

Not many dare to go as far, my friend. They chicken out and choke before they even say their first ‘I love you’ because they are petrified their heart may be broken and wounded. Guess what? Broken heart mends and is able to love with more love than before, every single time. Again, this applies to every relationship between two people, not just romantic. Every relationship, and even beyond relationship. If you are not open to new experiences and guarding yourself for fear of it not working out, you are cutting your own wings off, and that is sad.

It’s not sad to love and to give and to try and to have and to part with the person you love with your whole heart. That is life, that is love – if it’s really there, it doesn’t leave your soul – ever. What is sad is never to experience something deeply moving as true love, or true fulfillment.

Be brave, embrace those hard times, heal what needs healing, let go of what is no longer serving you and rejoice because you are becoming closer to who you really are.

Evening Waves in Swanage by Katarina Miletic