Straight to the Point
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Post written by Katarina Miletic Join my Inner Circle
Why does the simplest and the most satisfying concept of communication always seem to be the most tripped over? It isn’t the difficulty of implementation as much as the myriad of other things that so often get in the way.
First Thing to Eliminate – or Rather, Pay Attention to
Above all, one would need to know the very purpose of the conversation. This applies to all forms of communications and to all subjects alike – from formal, to close circle and private. When you have a purpose – it’s much easier to go after it. And whilst some subjects are naturally more delicate to navigate, keeping the point close to heart will help us preserve the best intention, and deliver the least discomfort.
Small Talk Has a Purpose – Waffling Doesn’t
I am not its biggest fan, but small talk lends a pleasant easy introduction into a circle where you are meeting some people from different backgrounds and viewpoints for the first time. It’s low stake conversation and handled properly, it can lead you somewhere – into a conversation that opens the door to genuine curiosity.
Waffling, on the other hand, is just an unnecessary noise creation, and should be avoided at all cost. It is smarter to stay silent and gently smile occasionally if you have nothing to say than to engage in conversation that is of no interest to you.
Being honest is always the best advantage. Which promptly brings me to my next point.
Honesty is The Only Policy
Sometimes saying all that’s on your mind is not prudent. Of course, that’s true. But everything that does come out of you should be the truth from your angle. How things seem to you, how you perceive something, how something impacts you personally – those are valid points and you should absolutely be honest when the need to elaborate on those is appropriate.
Never Worry About the Retort
Well, certainly not more than accurately delivering your point. Allow for the differences and the genuine curiosity to arise in the situation. This makes the whole communication most natural, and the other side will feel free to voice their true opinions.
Be Brave When it Comes to Expressing Your Genuine Feelings
I don’t think it will come to you as a surprise that I particularly want to draw your attention to this point. It doesn’t matter who says what first, as long as you are genuine and feel what you feel, be brave to speak your love, or whatever may be on your heart. No one will ever hold that against you. People welcome genuine expression of feeling much more than popular thinking will allow you to believe. In fact, when spoken with honesty, a genuine feeling comes across as the most powerful tool in conversation. It bypasses any games, saves you time, major headache, and even heartache down the line. If that’s not the best point in favour of straightforward delivery, I don’t know what is.
Let your instincts guide you, my friend. Don’t be shy to speak with anyone, anyplace, anytime. When you are armed with good intentions, you are allowing amazing things to unfold in your life.
* * * * The Exclusive Update – 327 Days to Dream * * * *
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I have not slept a wink last night as the pain has kept me awake for most of the night. Apart from making a solemn promise to myself never to mistake spring weather for summer ever again, I have also found solace in between agony to think about the 365 Days to Dream project and going forward. I am sure you will appreciate, when we feel unwell, all we can think of is getting well, but the night is a long time, and I couldn’t even hold my favourite book to read. Thoughts of going forward and the next steps after I recover, and after Easter, were comforting. I will share them with you another day. As we are still in confinement, practically moving forward will be somewhat challenging, but setting up for it and preparation of things that are in the domain of my own control are certainly where I will start when I resume daily activities.
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I am so grateful I can find focus and energy to sit up and write this blog to you. It would really make me sad if I was unable to do it. And let me tell you, a few hours ago, I contemplated that thought because things were not getting better soon enough. Still, I write this with a smile of real relief to you. We are still here together, my friend. And I am grateful for that. In just half an hour I have the live interview with my next podcast episode guest, and I really need my wits and energy to be able to record this for you with no interruption.
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Seeing how touch and go today is going, I am not going to make any attempt to guess what tomorrow will be like, nor what will be possible to do. One thing is for sure, family Easter celebration is imminent and preparations for it, well or unwell – are underway. I am getting there and will share with you some of that good cheer. Stay well, my friend, and speak with you tomorrow.
Remember – You Are Safe Here
This is the sacred place between our souls. Thank you for sharing your visions, dreams and ideas. Your courage to be vulnerably seen will always be respected, and you will be treated with nothing but kindness and compassion. ♡
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