I Never Settled for Mediocre and Here is Why You Shouldn’t Either

I Never Settled for Mediocre and
Here is Why You Shouldn't Either

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Post written by Katarina Miletic  Join my Inner Circle

Before I am done writing this post, you will realise why I chose the above title, even though I am not going to be spending any amount of time pointing at the obvious. I have every faith in my reader (yes - you, my dear friend).

I face my life with complete honesty to myself, and I maintain that in every interaction I have, and frankly - honesty is the easiest part. When I set the 365 Days to Dream project, I knew that I don’t need 365 days for the change I want to make in my home. Not for the practical part! What I needed was to start fine-tuning to the guidance of my inner being, over the narrative that I adopted and absorbed from the influences around me. Only, I went so deep to admit to myself that there is no outside influence, that everything was my own projection - that I held myself in the same spot because it seemed to be easier to view the world and my place in it as something outside my sphere of influence. 

Go on and have a guess how that worked for me? It didn’t! Damn right it didn’t! But the house renovation project was no longer stoppable, no longer negotiable - I was doing this against all odds. No matter what, I was signing success from day one. I knew I was done waiting. I knew that no matter how I did everything I could - when I assigned my happiness to anything outside me - the result was heartbreaking. Quite literally. So, having suffered quite enough (don’t even make me say the number of years) - I surrendered to the belief that every outcome in my life (and I mean every little detail that I see, feel, embody and live) is my own responsibility. My state of being is in my hands.

And then the magic happened just like that. On the dime, everything turned the right way up. I had to admit that the only thing standing in my way was me. I have given my rational mind the licence to govern my state of being, and I mean supreme power over my very strong and clear intuition. It’s totally irrelevant to try and figure out why I did that. But the bottom line answer I always unearthed was that I signed my power of creating my reality over to something outside me. 

The most ridiculous part is that there is nothing ‘outside’ me. It was all my projection, as your own life is yours. 

Unmistakably. That’s how creation works.

And it’s not like I didn’t know this before, but I didn’t let go of the false beliefs because my state of being was like a pendulum that I didn’t know how to stop. When it was on the good side, I absolutely knew how things work - but when it swung the other way, everything would come crashing down. 

And what were the main symptoms, so that you can avoid them like the plague: 

• Shrinking yourself to fit places
• Giving importance to anyone’s opinion about anything, including you (good or bad, it doesn’t matter my friend, they all go in the SAME basket: irrelevant) - whilst there is only one opinion you need to align with, and that is your higher self
• Agreeing to the terms to give just enough of your energy and yourself, but never all you got (because you think that’s too much to handle and you would rather be liked by everybody)

This can easily take over, but there is no need. We have much more important things to talk about here! Just trust yourself, if you are vigilant to these, you will quickly course-correct. You have everything you need inside you, just learn to trust it! That’s all. Do not make it complicated, because it’s not. Just admit to yourself that your life circumstances are only reflecting your state of being. And you are the one in charge. Your call entirely if you want to be the best version of yourself, or not. Just don’t fool yourself into believing that’s someone else’s job. Nobody can create in your reality - only you (everything you are experiencing is a reflection of your choices).

Now, that needed to be said before I go into today’s story - and I followed my inner guidance, as I promised to you and to me. 

Recently, during the relatively short period of time (less than two weeks) when I was unable to publish to the blog - a lot of the pieces of the puzzle turned the right way and I was able to put them together and have a clearer sense of the bigger picture of 365 days project. It is nothing short of amazing how I was able to use the right words to describe the vision before it became crystal clear. That is where that trust in inner guidance comes to full play. It cannot lead you astray! It can only guide you not only to the best possible outcomes but also on a most pleasing and joyful journey to each one. 

I knew that emotional attachment that I have assigned to certain things would be the hardest to let go - purely because of that huge meaning I applied to it. So, I knew that the work had to be done on the mindset before I can attempt anything in practical terms. I have no intention of justifying it, it just is what it is. I am calling it by its name, that’s all. And I choose to hold the meanings inside me, never in the things that appear in my reality.  That has unburdened me so much. I can’t even find words to describe the relief. 

However, that doesn’t mean that I haven’t been doing things. I carry on with my research, I refine my taste, I talk to my higher self and I take its wisdom, I allow inspiration, I am at ease. I am creating the best and the happiest life as we speak. This blog stands as a testament to that transformation. Don’t let anyone fool you: that is the work you have to do yourself, and the best timing possible is included in the deal. And so is everything else.

Take Away Thoughts

I guess my higher self didn’t want me (yet) to talk about the path that I have outlined so far. I really trust that it is leading me the best possible way, and perhaps I will still be refining and fine-tuning. Though, I don’t doubt it’s happening already. The choice of colours, lists of tasks (detailed per every room) - those can be revealed as we go. 

Focus on being true to who you really are. Always prioritise this and come from a place of accepting everything as the best possible thing that can happen, as it can indeed be a catalyst for phenomenal change and impact within yourself. Radiate the purest, finest, brightest light of love that you have inside you, my friend. Everything else must follow when you find, and connect with, You.

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