Common Missteps That are Costing You Happiness

Common Missteps That are Costing You Happiness

Don't wish it was easier, wish you were better. Don't wish for fewer problems, wish for more skills. Don't wish for less challenge, wish for more wisdom.
Jim Rohn

Post written by Katarina Miletic  Join my Inner Circle

A lot of our life depends directly on our ability to trust it unreservedly. The guidance, and the structure support, and the root system, and the foundation to happiness and success are all inside our being. On how well we are connected with it, how willing we are to surrender entirely to our instincts and lean into all of our senses – will depend whether we produce desired or non-desired outcomes.

Nothing about life is random.

I am not suggesting that these kinds of observations are located on the surface, or just under the surface of what we consider our daily life. But they are just as present, only we haven’t brought our full awareness to them, and most likely have signed our power over to something or someone outside us.

Some of the Most Common Telltale Signs

·      You have taken the time to sort out your studies, and career, and steady work, and relationship and family life – but something just isn’t sitting right, even though you can’t put the finger on it. Everything indicates you have done everything right, and you have accolades to prove it, but inside you know there is more to it. Stop looking for someone else to lead you. It’s OK to question and draw your own conclusions. Have you looked deep inside yourself, my friend? There is a whole world of unique to you opportunities that are calling you to play with them to your heart’s content and share them freely with the world. From that, the satisfaction unlike anything you have ever experienced will wash over you and it will enhance everything else in your life. Unless you are happy within, you won’t find it outside you.

·      You have one area of your life going really well, and you spend much time there, excelling at it - whilst the other areas are pretty much a disaster, escapism, or they work to a certain point and then you feel either suffocated or bored with them and feel the need to move on. Everything is indicating that you are avoiding looking within at all costs. What are you afraid of? There is much more to life than the surface level. That one area that you love (whatever it may be) – is that making your heart sing? Yes? Good! Now imagine if you really gave it all you got, not just – what, I am guessing but maybe 20-30% of your real energy, 40% at best! But you know you scare yourself if you just let go – your potential is immense. If that is your passion, surrender to it – and from it, everything else will be born. True satisfaction and lasting happiness. All inside you already, you’re just choosing to feel 20-30% of it. Try asking yourself why are you cutting yourself short? You came here for full life experience, my friend.
Immerse yourself in it. You’ll be surprised how fast and easy you will be truly happy.

·      “What’s the point? Nothing ever turns out well, so why bother?” Does that sound like you? If you think someone/anyone lives a life without challenges, disappointment and pain – this is not going to be a comfortable ride for you, my friend.  How they deal with them, however, makes all the difference. Have you tried changing your broken record, just as an experiment? Unless you are willing to change your angle, you’re absolutely right - nothing will turn out well. I am not even sure either one of us needs to bother with this. It’s painful for me to write that, but the bottom line is I am going to remain honest with you, as I am with myself. Quit expecting someone else to save you. That’s not within their power, no matter how much they want to, trust me. There is only one saviour for you – and it is inside you. Let your inner being show you the light inside you. No one else will ever shine brighter than you. Give yourself permission to care about your happiness, and take all the responsibility for it.

As you can see, my friend, we have barely scratched the surface here. There are so many of us walking disconnected from our source of happiness, source of love and life inside us. Start educating yourself on looking within, on going deeper and learning how to trust that all is well. Start remembering bit by bit that your true nature is a happy and positive state of mind – despite all and through it all.

Life is a complex experience, rich with possibility and opportunity, dark and perilous at times, but never without a chance to choose a different perspective. Choose one that makes you feel better! It’s so simple. Let it be simple, please.

If I had a magic wand I would make everyone happy in their own skin. But all I have are these words and the love that has guided my hand to write them. Don’t be afraid to really live – to dive deeper into your soul than you ever dared before and trust that love will always catch you. Allow yourself to experience it.

* * * * The Exclusive Update – 330 Days to Dream * * * * 

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I was able to do more today, although I am taking it easy for a couple more days, just until I get back to my normal energy levels. Yes, it’s hard to admit sometimes that I am not a robot, but I am grateful for the grace that is holding all of this together. Just a perfect illustration for the blog post above: a humble human reminder that we can be deeply satisfied and happy deep inside the ocean of our soul - no matter what storms are raging on the surface.

As I am taking a step back to do gentler activities, my mind is still keeping itself occupied with layouts and visions of furniture makeovers and complete design projects. I infinitely trust that the warmer days are on the horizon and it will all come together nicely – having a plan, feeling good and achieving practical results.

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Today’s predominant feeling is creative contemplation  - a lovely live art class alongside lovely Valentine whose art project is turning out so well. I’m sure you will want to see it when she is finished with it, but her dedication to every detail is really paying off. I love her style, demeanour, and overall abundant positive attitude and creative energy. She puts herself and everyone around her at ease. It was lovely to connect and work together, each one of us on our own artwork, but in the same space. Very grateful also for everything else unfolding nicely as the work on the brand new website is concerned, and preparing a surprise for you for this coming Sunday on This is Your Moment podcast – a special guest.

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Looking forward to tomorrow. I plan for it to be a tranquil and peaceful day – allowing the time for exercise, painting, website work – and general recovery mode still. I will keep you posted if you keep an eye on this section of the blog.

White Geranium Study, Our Garden by Katarina Miletic 

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